How to Overcome

TEDTalks: How to overcome our biases? Walk boldly toward them - Verna Myers

Length: 17 minutes

What it is:

A short, but poignant discussion from a woman who works as a diversity consultant about biases in America.

My confession:

Over the last few years, I have had a desire to foster deeper relationships with some of the people in my life who are black. Sometimes I have held myself back because I tell myself this an inauthentic reason to foster friendship. Maybe what I tell myself is just an excuse. Ms. Myers has some thoughts that resounded to me.

A 2nd admission:

Conflict is something that continually terrifies me. My analytical nature also results in me rarely talking about an issue in the ‘heat of the moment’. I have often not had the courage to speak up to people expressing biased views that I disagree with, and I feel this makes me guilty by association. Perhaps her reminding me of the real importance of speaking up will help me to do so.

What gives me hope:

In everything I read and everything I watch, there is a common theme: we can reduce our biases. None of us are perfect, but each baby step we take toward understanding our biases will reduce the amount of fear, conflict, and pain in the world. Three things that I think are in overabundance right now.

My favorite quote:

“You know, biases are the stories we make up about people before we know who they are, but how are we going to know who they are when we’ve been told to avoid and be afraid of them.”